Wedding Minister on Wedding Trends
Recent wedding trends like “Trashing the Dress” can prove dangerous.
Wedding trends and traditions come and go. Such is not surprising given that couples are continually looking for ways to make their wedding unique and memorable. That’s what keeps sites like Pinterest and The Knot humming at all hours of the day and night. It has been reported that fully a third of users who search these two sites for wedding ideas have not yet become engaged. Of greatest interest among those looking for wedding ideas are reception décor and photos of wedding dresses.
Since the wedding dress represents a significant investment for many brides, the research seems warranted. But what do you do with the wedding dress after the wedding ceremony? This is one tradition that appears to be changing.
Once upon a time, a bride would take her dress to the local dry-cleaners which would clean the gown and pack it away into a fancy box. I leave it to you to ponder how many ever fit into that gown again. Perhaps it is the risk of being reminded of that fact that so many couples are choosing another fate for that expensive gown. It has become known as “Trashing the Dress.”
Trashing the dress is the act of intentionally ruining the dress while the act is caught on camera or video. Some have used paint so that the couple ends up looking like they just finished a color me rad race. Others have staged a food fight at the reception that includes the flinging of red wine. Still others find a mud puddle or lake and jump in. Perhaps the most dramatic involves fire.
Natasha Samuel of Israel is trending on social media for setting her dress on fire and then running into the ocean – catching all of it on video and posting it HERE on You Tube. While others have used fire, few have risked wearing the dress while it is burning. For most, the dramatic effect is just not worth the risk. Last year a bride that was having her picture taken in a rushing stream was swept away to her death.
Speaking of risks associated with wedding trends, another Natasha – I leave it to you to ponder what it is about brides by that name – Natasha Jones recently allowed her new husband to launch her into the air by slingshot where she threw her bouquet to the waiting crowd. In fairness, her new husband, Jacob, endured the same fate in order to throw the garter. The event, captured on video, has been posted HERE.
Your idea of a special wedding day may not include the risk of death. There are still things that can make your ceremony unique. You can count on Randy to compose and conduct a wedding ceremony that reflects your unique love and history – slingshots and fire optional.
Wedding Minister on Handling Cards at Your Ceremony and Reception
Couples need to make special arrangements to guard their booty of cash, checks and gift cards.
Once upon a time it might have been rude to give a gift card to a young couple as a wedding present. It is becoming more acceptable. Cash, while requiring just as little thought, historically has not received the same bad press. Checks seem to fall somewhere in between.
Cash, checks and gift cards share one benefit: they are all liquid assets – readily and easily used. That, of course, can also be a liability and why they present such a temptation. It’s far easier to grab and conceal a card from a reception table than say a toaster oven.
Last month a Pennsylvania woman was arrested at a wedding reception for attempting to steal over $500 in cash and checks. Other female guests at the wedding found the loot stuffed in her bra. The accused had accompanied her boyfriend, who had been invited, to the wedding.
And more recently, at another wedding reception also in Pennsylvania – I will restrain myself from drawing any inferences about the state – an uninvited individual walked away with the small box shaped wedding cake that was used to collect cards, cash and checks. The thief, who was caught on surveillance video, apparently lifted the box from the groom’s car after it was placed there following the reception.
To avoid financial loss or an embarrassing police incident, couples need to appoint someone they trust to collect cards or be in charge of the gifting table. At the very least, this individual needs to keep a watchful eye on the gifts. If a couple doesn’t want to ask guests to give cards to an individual, they can have a locked wooden box with a mail slot into which guests may deposit cards.
Regardless of the precautions taken, a couple can recruit the wedding minister to make an announcement regarding where cards may be deposited, particularly if the reception is held at the same venue as the wedding ceremony. This announcement should come after the recessional and the newly pronounced couple has exited. Make sure you discuss any special instructions you may wish to be shared at the end of the ceremony, including those for gifts, with your wedding minister.
A Memorial Wine Box can make your wedding ceremony unique.
While symbolic expressions like unity candles can add meaning to a wedding ceremony, most are fairly common. Constructing a memorial wine box as part of the ceremony remains a unique way to symbolize your commitment.
Marriage is not to be entered into without great thought and commitment. It means the blending of two lives together to the point that they become one. While this is a process, it remains the goal. Many couples include a unity candle or unity sand to illustrate this goal. A less familiar symbol, a memorial wine box, retains the idea of blending your lives together while also acknowledging that the process will be challenging.
A memorial box is similar to a time capsule. During the ceremony, the bride and the groom place letters that each has written in a container and seal that container for a future date. Often, the container is a hinged box, but it could be anything that can be sealed or locked. As the name implies, most couples also place a nice bottle of wine inside the box, though it would not be required. The box is then sealed – by nails, screws or wood glue – or locked. The idea is that it cannot be opened without intent.
The container is placed somewhere safe after the wedding ceremony with the idea that the couple will open it some years later and read the thoughts that were written by each to the other. These writings will serve to remind the couple of the dreams and hopes that motivated them to make a commitment in marriage. While this would be a wonderful way to celebrate a fifth or tenth anniversary, the container might also be opened if and when the couple finds themselves in crisis. In such times it can be valuable to have a tangible reminder of what brought the couple together.
The use of this symbol in the wedding ceremony requires some additional explanation for the guests. If you want to include this symbol in your ceremony, you need to make sure that your officiant understands the purpose and significance of the act and is equipped to explain this to the guest while you assemble and seal the memorial box.
You can find the wine box pictured above online HERE.