Proposal Planner

Wedding Minister on Proposal Planner

When you need a little help in popping the question, who do you call? There’s a new service that hopes to engage you, called a proposal planner.

In the course of my profession, I have identified and connected with people and businesses that offer a broad range of services. These include wedding planners, bakers, florists, chauffeurs, tuxedo shops and bridal boutiques.

All of these, including wedding ministers, have something in common – they are usually called upon after a couple decides to take their relationship to the next level and commit to one another in marriage. Most folks that find themselves at are planning a wedding.

Recently, however, I discovered a service that is provided by a pre-wedding specialist. Before this discovery I had assumed that jewelers made up the entire pre-wedding category. Turns out, there is another specialty in the category that is gaining notoriety – the proposal planner.

The proposal planner is a consultant who has but one task: to help a client pop the question in a romantic, creative and memorable manner. The cost depends on the level of service you desire. The proposal planner can do as little as suggest a couple of ideas or can take on the task of making all the arrangements, including that of introducing you to the other specialist in this category, the jeweler, and helping you select the right ring.

While this service appears to be growing in demand, it is not without its critics. Some contend that it removes the personal touch from the equation and makes it just another transaction. In all fairness, at least from what I understand, the client remains involved in the process of developing and implementing an idea. Others fear that the proposal planner means an elaborate production, but there’s nothing that keeps a unique proposal from being intimate or private. More to the point, the brilliance of the proposal should not exceed the sparkle of the ring. A planner might actually help maintain a healthy balance.

Others criticize the way television has sensationalized the event through shows like the Bachelor and Bachelorette and fear that no one can live up to that kind of pressure even with the help of a planner. While the expectations may have risen as a result of television shows, I suspect the greatest expectation remains that the proposal be sentimental and reflect serious thought.

While a proposal planner may be beneficial, it cannot guarantee the outcome will be as hoped. One the other hand, a thoughtful and polished proposal can’t hurt.

While the proposal planner has found a niche in some metropolitan areas including New York, Los Angeles and Cleveland, I have yet to encounter someone who focuses on this particular service in the Triangle. If you provide this service locally or know of someone who does, please contact me.

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Wedding Insurance

Wedding Minister on Insurance for Your Wedding

Insurance companies offer policies that can cover unexpected loss or liability.

Insurance can be purchased to cover almost any potential loss. The big three, auto, home and life, are types of policies that have been around for years and are frequently purchased. Less familiar are policies that protect our travel and products, though these often are offered at the point of sale whether the purchase is online (think or at a retail store (think Best Buy).

Given that the average spent on a wedding in the United States is just over $25,000, perhaps it should come as no surprise that insurance companies developed policies to cover risks associated with your wedding. Travelers Insurance markets what it calls a Wedding Protector Plan that promises to cover some of the more common things that might go wrong on your special day, including weather delays, cancellations by venues or vendors, loss of photographs or theft of wedding gifts. Fireman’s Fund markets similar coverage under the name Wedsure as does Affinity Insurance under the name WedSafe.

In addition to loss coverage, there is usually an option to purchase liability coverage. This may be the better investment in terms of risk and potential loss and can cover both the venue and you. It is not uncommon for the venue where the wedding is being held to require liability insurance in case the location incurs damage as a result of your celebration. If you serve alcohol at an event you host you can be held liable for damages caused by someone that drinks too much whether at the celebration or on the way home.

In terms of cost, the broader the coverage, the more expensive the policy. You should be able to purchase loss and liability coverage for under $400.00. You have to decide whether that is unreasonable for a policy that only covers 24-48 hours of your life.

As with any insurance, the devil is in the details. Obviously the insurer wants to limit the conditions under which it will have to pay a claim after it collects your premium. One of the limitations will be the time that the policy is in effect. If the policy coverage ends at 2:00 a.m. and your guests decide to party on into the early morning, there may be no coverage for the fight that breaks out over an inappropriate comment made by your distant cousin.

Make sure you read the policy and its limitations very closely before you finalize the deal. And make sure you betrothed is the one for you. Most policies do not cover a change of heart, at least not without an additional premium. would love to help make your wedding day special. Call, email or use the Contact Form for additional information.

Music and Copyright Issues

Wedding Minister on Music and Copyright Issues

Copyright laws provide music artists and publishers with protections for their intellectual property. Unless you want to risk incurring penalties for infringement, you need to make sure that you or someone you hire is not in violation of copyright law.

Music can add a great deal to your wedding ceremony and reception. In fact, it’s hard to imagine not having music at these events to help capture the mood, communicate the significance of the event and celebrate the occasion. What would the ceremony be without a song to accompany the bride down the aisle or a reception without a special song to mark the couple’s first dance?

While couples are known to write their own wedding vows, something that can help you with, most couples do not compose the songs that will be played during the ceremony or reception. In other words, most couples rely upon the artistic talents and abilities of others to provide the appropriate music for the wedding events.

Under federal copyright law, songs are considered intellectual propertyCopyright and are protected. As with most property, the owner holds certain rights to use the property and to limit others in their use of the property without compensation. When you purchase a song off iTunes you are paying for the right to use someone else’s property. You do not own the song. You have merely purchased the right to play and listen to it. You cannot duplicate it and distribute it. That’s what all the fuss over Napster was about. Even the right to play and listen is limited. For example, you are not supposed to play the song in a public setting. Other licenses have to be purchased to exercise that right.

Fortunately, under most circumstances, your wedding ceremony is attended by family and friends that have been invited and is not a public performance. Public is defined under copyright law as a place open to the public or any place where a substantial number of persons outside of a normal circle of a family and its social acquaintances is gathered. If the ceremony is held in a private location and the general public is not invited the performance of the wedding music is not public. That is particularly true for wedding ceremonies held within the context of a church. A wedding conducted in such a setting may fall under the copyright exceptions for a worship service. As long as the music has been obtained legally, you are allowed to play it in the ceremony. If you are planning for the ceremony to be in a place that is open to the public, you may need to find ways to avoid infringement under copyright law.

Likewise, under most circumstances, your wedding reception is not a public event. If the venue that hosts your reception only has people associated with your reception in attendance and your reception is limited to your family or your social acquaintances, then your reception would not be a public performance. However, you may be hosting your reception in a venue that is considered public, where others outside of your guests will be able to hear the music. Under these circumstances the venue would be wise to secure a general performance license to cover the songs that are going to be played.

There is another use of music that can be a problem under copyright law; songs that are played and captured on a wedding video or songs that are inserted as background music on a video compilation of pictures or video clips. In both cases, the song is, at the very least, being reproduced and may likely be published for public use as well, particularly if the video is uploaded to Facebook or YouTube. A separate license would be required for each of these uses. Further, there may be more than one entity from which a license must be secured. Often a song is written by one artist and performed or published by someone else.

According to sites that discuss issues related to videographers, there has been a marked increase in the number of lawsuits that have been filed for copyright infringement related to wedding videos. If you intend to record any songs that are part of your ceremony or reception or you want certain music as a background to be inserted into a video, you might want to address these issues with your videographer. It is much cheaper to purchase a license than it is to defend or settle a lawsuit.

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