Wedding Minister on Handling Cards at Your Ceremony and Reception
Couples need to make special arrangements to guard their booty of cash, checks and gift cards.
Once upon a time it might have been rude to give a gift card to a young couple as a wedding present. It is becoming more acceptable. Cash, while requiring just as little thought, historically has not received the same bad press. Checks seem to fall somewhere in between.
Cash, checks and gift cards share one benefit: they are all liquid assets – readily and easily used. That, of course, can also be a liability and why they present such a temptation. It’s far easier to grab and conceal a card from a reception table than say a toaster oven.
Last month a Pennsylvania woman was arrested at a wedding reception for attempting to steal over $500 in cash and checks. Other female guests at the wedding found the loot stuffed in her bra. The accused had accompanied her boyfriend, who had been invited, to the wedding.
And more recently, at another wedding reception also in Pennsylvania – I will restrain myself from drawing any inferences about the state – an uninvited individual walked away with the small box shaped wedding cake that was used to collect cards, cash and checks. The thief, who was caught on surveillance video, apparently lifted the box from the groom’s car after it was placed there following the reception.
To avoid financial loss or an embarrassing police incident, couples need to appoint someone they trust to collect cards or be in charge of the gifting table. At the very least, this individual needs to keep a watchful eye on the gifts. If a couple doesn’t want to ask guests to give cards to an individual, they can have a locked wooden box with a mail slot into which guests may deposit cards.
Regardless of the precautions taken, a couple can recruit the wedding minister to make an announcement regarding where cards may be deposited, particularly if the reception is held at the same venue as the wedding ceremony. This announcement should come after the recessional and the newly pronounced couple has exited. Make sure you discuss any special instructions you may wish to be shared at the end of the ceremony, including those for gifts, with your wedding minister.